A topic close to my heart that has received much criticism in the west from both the non-Muslims and Muslims is the subject of Polygyny. Polygyny is where a man has two or more wives, polygamy in Islam refers to this but its actual definition in the west is the practice of having more than one husband or wife at the same time; for ease therefore, it shall be referred to as being called Polygyny in this article. Polygyny, even between some Muslims is a controversial subject, we know it’s permissible in Islam but some people still have a hard time digesting the concept; Continue reading
Struggling with my Deen
Trying to stay clean,
But these destructive thoughts wander around –
Suicidal highs, then I collapse back to the ground.
Haraam desires are a’calling
And I can’t stop myself falling
Into the trap
Until I’m back
To that place where I don’t want to be;
How desolate, how pathetic is my reality.
I guess I’m just weak
Cos no matter how much I seek
Peace, I cannot seem to find,
And now I’ve really gotten myself into a bind.
My life, they say, began when I was innocent and carefree,
now they pity and sympathise seeing what has become of me.
Where once a beautiful young girl stood,
now stands an oppressed mum hidden underneath her hijab hood;
single and alone they think, “must be running scared”.
It’s not like they got to know me though,it’s not like they even cared.
It’s true, I lost my home and husband and the life I knew,
but Allah blessed me with wisdom and maturity and with it my soul grew.
I look them in the eye – no shame upon my face,
I proudly wear my label: ‘single Muslim mum’ – NOT a disgrace! Continue reading
The issue of single Muslim mothers is fast becoming a prevalent one; with divorce on the rise it seems only logical that some of these statistics would also apply to Muslim households. Why then are they not revered as they deserve to be and instead looked down upon and scorned by many communities? Is it really seen as so contagious that girls from ‘respectable’ families should stay away from these women in case they too, catch it? Why are these women made to feel humiliated and isolated from their community as if they chose this path for themselves? Being left with no option but to walk is not the same as breaking up a perfectly happy marriage for selfish reasons; only Allah knows the whole truth and what is in someone’s heart so why then do people assume? Continue reading