I have come across many mothers who have lost their self worth, their sense of self, under all the nappy changes, cooking, feeding and cleaning. Sleep deprived, attending to the needs of all in the household as well as the house itself they seem to forget the mass contribution they are making in our Ummah. Not only are some women wives and have the rewards with Allah in contributing to their marriages, they are also bringing up the next generation! Building towards a righteous society in sha Allah. They are the first imaams to their children! bringing them up, nurturing the minds, souls and hearts of the future men and women of society whom can make amazing contributions in sha Allah.
Depressed, heart-broken, mentally scared these are a few of the many symptoms of a SINGLE MUSLIM MOTHER. Your mind is pre-occupied with the past and the way it’s treated you, so you then look to the future with spite of what you fear may come. Worried about the your rent, tax, personal issues and to top it of with YOUR child. Constantly you hear them wanting this and wanting that and YOU just can’t take it; so you get angry and slowly start to avoid them. Your eyes have become WARM with tears of sadness. BUT you don’t see that really all they want is YOU, and really all YOU need is them. Huh? Yes. You heard me YOU need your children. You’re looking for a way out from all the problems and issues from the past and you direct them to the future but you don’t realise that you’ve forgotten the present. Continue reading
Parenting is a struggle for most of us; I hate those parents who smugly boast about how perfect little Junior is (even though I saw him kick his little brother and try to push him into oncoming traffic!); and how it’s thanks to their amazing parenting skills and the fact that they have an amazingly stable family unit consisting of two parents. Parenting to me as a single mum is like playing Call Of Duty; you think you are part of a squad and go out with your team: glorious; with guns blazing; only to find out it’s a them Vs. you match where they show you no mercy and consequently you are annihilated within the first 5 minutes. My kids know how to push my buttons and they push them well. I may be the only one out there who has little evil geniuses dressed up as kids but I can’t let that stop me anymore; I’ve got to regain control! I’m sick of whingeing on Facebook and Whatsapp asking people how they successfully parent their kids and to give me advice – now is the time to stand and fight and quit acting like a man (did you like what I did there?! Women are the true fighters, come on give me an almighty roar!). It is with that goal in mind that I have decided, as I have high-spirited children, to test a variety of parenting techniques out on them. In sha Allah I’ll list a technique and where I got it from, I’ll try it out for a week and then give it a verdict out of 10. I think it’s a great way to make disciplining fun and if you’re lucky I’ll even try to take some snaps too! Lovely Jubbly!
Some great ideas can be found on my Pinterest board! If you have any parenting techniques you want me to road test then leave me a reply and I’ll do my best to comply!