Not necessarily as there is still stigma attached to divorcees and some men would rather marry virgins. But in principle you are right and it is sadly looked down upon plus people think it goes against the laws of the UK
Assalamualaykum allah bless all muslim single mothers ameen. My father was single father to myself n my sibling . N later i was single parent a father. I found it blessing. N being single . Would consider marriage to single parent . Purpose to fullfill sunna. N gain reward inshaa allah. But wat i found is that people have high expections . Idealism. Dream. Rather. Than partner. Best freind . Financial. Trust . Pray together . Gain nearness to allah.
I agree with you, people forget this dunya not janah, I don’t mind to remarry again but I don’t think i met anyone who is willing to be in this dunya for purpose of akhira. Everyone is looking for perfection and there is no perfection in this world 😦
Asma i suggest you talk to your husband and open this subject with him. If he does not respond find someone he looks up to and ask him if he could help. This person can be an islamic figure, a famoly member or even a friend. And dont forget before attempting anything to ask allah to guide him and bring peace between you.
I ask allah to bring you closer and grant you the best of life. Ameen
Assalaamu alaikum,
. I am a single man 25 yrs. When I read a blog by a sister on single muslim mum and the day to day challenges that they face. It just made me sit back and think. And opened my eyes to alot of things. And Insha Allah I have decided that I would think and consider if I would get any alliance from a single Muslim mum. And I appreciate the effort of Ms. Akhtar. Allah help and bless you in your effort. Ameen
AS SALAAMU ALAYKUM SISTERS UNDERSTAND THIS ALLAH SWT LOVES Y’ALL WHAT’S MEANT WILL SURELY BE ESTABLISHED WHAT’S NOT MEANT ALHAMDULLILAH BE PATIENT WITHIN YOURSELF…BE APPRECIATIVE CONTENT AND GRATEFUL FOR WHAT ALLAH HAS DECREE FOR Y’ALL ONCE Y’ALL INVEST YOUR EEMAN IN THOSE AREAS….DOORS INSHAALLAH WILL OPEN BY ALLAH….TRUST HIM YOU HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE TOO REMEMBER WHEN YOUR HEART IS SICK THE ENTIRE SYSTEM IS SICK
AS SALAAMU ALAYKUM THINK OUTSIDE OF YOUR SITUATION ALLAH KNOWS BEST BUT HE REMOVE THINGS AND PPL TO GET YOUR ATTN….BUILD A SOLID RELATIONSHIP WITH ALLAH FIRST MAN GOIN ALWAYS BE OUT THERE LOL YOU AIN’T MISSIN NOTHING BUT CREATE SELF STANDARDS AND ELEVATE YOUR MORALS YOU NEVER KNOWS WHAT JUST MAY BE IN ROUTE MAKE YOUR SELF READY SHAPE YOUR BODIES MIND SPIRIT ALLAH GOT US…..
Hi….
This is a shot in the dark so bare with me
I employ a young Muslim girl who recently got pregnant, family forced her to give up her baby for adoption, she didn’t want to do this, but had no choice, I gave her all the support I could( being non Muslim there was just emotional and some financial support) she smiles a little, but the eyes cry!!! Is there any support group available that you know of? I hope so inshalla
Iam a convert who found Islam through my husband, which I discovered 5 years into our marriage that he only married me for green card and citizenship. I am still in the divorce process til this day. Our 6 year anniversary will be on 11/26. I feel sad and don’t have a solid support from family. My muslim Turkish friends quite don’t understand. Actually no one really knows how I feel unless it happened to you. My lil 8 year old son misses him. I just recently started wearing hijab for a couple of days and officially been a Muslim for now 3 years and alhamdullilah. I just feel alone. I reside in the United States in a state called Arizona. If anyone knows about Arizona it is predominantly Christian state and majority are Caucasian. I sometimes feel selfish when I ask Allah SWT to make it easy for me and my son to Move On with life. My son has difficulties with his behavior in school and it’s getting worse and worse but I will take him to see a neuropsychologist soon inshallah. I pray that one day my husband would become pious in this beautiful religion. I hope that one day he is a good Muslim so that he may be able to realize the damage that he caused in my life and my son’s life. I also pray that I will be able to actually find someone who really cares about me and my son but I know that in reality that will be the most difficult part because I am a Muslim now and I must find a Muslim husband. Also I am wearing my hijab. I have become aware of the stigma that some woman have that have children without a husband and it is sad because we would like companions too but is so stigmatize that we may never find companions. I know that allah bestow his mercy upon me that I may have a chance to get into Genna and meet a pious husband there but in the Duna I feel like I may not have that experience. My husband stole that from me he used me and my son to get a citizenship so that he can marry a Turkish woman and bring her to U.S. You can imagine where my self-esteem is right now and the only thing that keeps me going is the grace of Allah.
Sorry for the sentence structure and grammar I was using voice text
Assalamualaikum malak,
It’s tough to be in such a situation. But at the same time , you have to start trusting . And Insha Allah make efforts . Allah does help . Not all men are alike.
SubhanAllah, I’m so sorry to hear of your hardship sister. May Allah make it easy for us all.
Its very concerning, how single muslim mothers are seen in such awkward light by muslim community in large. There are always exceptions, however a single muslim mother of two, I feel like its so difficult to remarry because of many contributing factors, including men being less recipient to you because you are divorced and have children.
.
I think the muslim Ummah must do more to stop this stigma and offer more support for sisters to remarry. Single muslim mums need more Muslim Male role models in the lives of our children.
I have two boys and I crave for them to accompany a father to jummah, learn from a man they admire who loves Allah and his messenger more than his own life.
I’m so troubled by the lack of support, Its devastating at times.
First time reading here. I probably already know the answer. And I should ask someone in a right position. But …
I really want to take my 3 daughters abroad for a holiday. 2 of them have never been and one has been once many years ago. But I have no Marham. My dad is dead. His dad is dead. I do not see my mum”s dad. My brother is 11 years old. I am not in contact with my uncles, all of whom are non Muslims anyway, and I wouldn’t want to go away with them. Can I go? I’d chose a predominantly Muslim country (does that exist anymore?!). It would be for 5 days.
It has been a horrible 2 years. I need the break as much as they deserve it.
Walaikum salaam not sure this is the right place! You can’t travel without a mahram except in extreme situations like if you were a prisoner returning to your land. But, I am no scholar and it’s better you speak to one
May Allah bless you with His mercy for starting such a noble cause.
May Allah strengthen and shower His love on all righteous single parents out there.
Salamalaykum sisters…
This site sounds interesting and spiritually encouraging for single mums like us..
I am a widow with 2 girls and me and my gurls recently embraced islam..Alhamdulillah
I am struggling this Ramadan. I started off well and then i lost all motivation. Praying night prayers are really difficult to manage with work and family commitments.
I feel guilty and terrible.
I can’t do everything even tho I want to.
Salaam Sisters, it is very heartbreaking to read about muslim moms who has jannah under her feet struggling day to day with hardships.
My humble suggestion is if some sisters start single mom meet up group, where they can bring their children, make programs to tske them to park. Movies picnic etc. That way sisters and their children will get chance to make new friends share their ideas , support for each other. Important they and their children will not be lonely. Believe me i gave gone through this situation long time ago.
taking the initiative and the courage to come up with sth out of struggle is not easy to have it done .i admire ur efforts in expressing urself and other women’s and encouraging them to not get afraid of what they are and stop blaming themselves for sth they are not responsible for and finally stop following the cattles thinking and make their voice heard for all those who try to stigmatize them.
I am a single Muslim mom n really facing difficulties to take care of my 3 year girl, After I left my husband because of his bad habits n not taking responsibility of his family I came back to my brothers home n staying with him..people blame me for leaving my husband including my brother’s wife …but Allah knows I tried every way to make him responsible n leave his haram habits he wasn’t ready so I left him…now each day is like an exam for me because I’m a dependant…I need a job please provide me support…being a single mum in this duniya without a job is like being in hell
Please Allah show mercy on single Muslim mum, Ameen
Salaam sister! Insha-Allah you will find support here…Allah is the best listener and may Allah ease your hardship…ameen!
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This is a good resource for the sisters out there but remember…This goes both ways.
Divorce is a tragedy for all involved. I am a single Muslim father who has found it all but impossible to marry again.
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Asalam aleikum all,i love what am seeing and am following,am 27 a single mum
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Plenty have and will, it does not always work out though because polygamy is easy to get wrong and hard to get right, Allahu aalim
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Not necessarily as there is still stigma attached to divorcees and some men would rather marry virgins. But in principle you are right and it is sadly looked down upon plus people think it goes against the laws of the UK
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Assalamualaykum allah bless all muslim single mothers ameen. My father was single father to myself n my sibling . N later i was single parent a father. I found it blessing. N being single . Would consider marriage to single parent . Purpose to fullfill sunna. N gain reward inshaa allah. But wat i found is that people have high expections . Idealism. Dream. Rather. Than partner. Best freind . Financial. Trust . Pray together . Gain nearness to allah.
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I agree with you, people forget this dunya not janah, I don’t mind to remarry again but I don’t think i met anyone who is willing to be in this dunya for purpose of akhira. Everyone is looking for perfection and there is no perfection in this world 😦
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Salam alaikum nadia, did you get some support?
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Yes definitely i know sisters who would marry a married man plus mother his kid/s
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This is a decision only you can make sister. Pray istikharah and talk to your family members in sha Allah
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Asma i suggest you talk to your husband and open this subject with him. If he does not respond find someone he looks up to and ask him if he could help. This person can be an islamic figure, a famoly member or even a friend. And dont forget before attempting anything to ask allah to guide him and bring peace between you.
I ask allah to bring you closer and grant you the best of life. Ameen
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Assalaamu alaikum,
. I am a single man 25 yrs. When I read a blog by a sister on single muslim mum and the day to day challenges that they face. It just made me sit back and think. And opened my eyes to alot of things. And Insha Allah I have decided that I would think and consider if I would get any alliance from a single Muslim mum. And I appreciate the effort of Ms. Akhtar. Allah help and bless you in your effort. Ameen
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Salam everyone ,
I am a single mom. I don’t have facebook.
Just wondering if there is a what’s up group .
Thank you ,
Souad
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Salaam, I’d like to know the same. I’m a soon to be mum and now single so it would be a blessing if there was some sort of group.
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AS SALAAMU ALAYKUM SISTERS UNDERSTAND THIS ALLAH SWT LOVES Y’ALL WHAT’S MEANT WILL SURELY BE ESTABLISHED WHAT’S NOT MEANT ALHAMDULLILAH BE PATIENT WITHIN YOURSELF…BE APPRECIATIVE CONTENT AND GRATEFUL FOR WHAT ALLAH HAS DECREE FOR Y’ALL ONCE Y’ALL INVEST YOUR EEMAN IN THOSE AREAS….DOORS INSHAALLAH WILL OPEN BY ALLAH….TRUST HIM YOU HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE TOO REMEMBER WHEN YOUR HEART IS SICK THE ENTIRE SYSTEM IS SICK
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AS SALAAMU ALAYKUM THINK OUTSIDE OF YOUR SITUATION ALLAH KNOWS BEST BUT HE REMOVE THINGS AND PPL TO GET YOUR ATTN….BUILD A SOLID RELATIONSHIP WITH ALLAH FIRST MAN GOIN ALWAYS BE OUT THERE LOL YOU AIN’T MISSIN NOTHING BUT CREATE SELF STANDARDS AND ELEVATE YOUR MORALS YOU NEVER KNOWS WHAT JUST MAY BE IN ROUTE MAKE YOUR SELF READY SHAPE YOUR BODIES MIND SPIRIT ALLAH GOT US…..
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Hi….
This is a shot in the dark so bare with me
I employ a young Muslim girl who recently got pregnant, family forced her to give up her baby for adoption, she didn’t want to do this, but had no choice, I gave her all the support I could( being non Muslim there was just emotional and some financial support) she smiles a little, but the eyes cry!!! Is there any support group available that you know of? I hope so inshalla
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Hi
She can join the single muslim mums group on Facebook which is got women only. Hope this helps
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Salamalakium,
Iam a convert who found Islam through my husband, which I discovered 5 years into our marriage that he only married me for green card and citizenship. I am still in the divorce process til this day. Our 6 year anniversary will be on 11/26. I feel sad and don’t have a solid support from family. My muslim Turkish friends quite don’t understand. Actually no one really knows how I feel unless it happened to you. My lil 8 year old son misses him. I just recently started wearing hijab for a couple of days and officially been a Muslim for now 3 years and alhamdullilah. I just feel alone. I reside in the United States in a state called Arizona. If anyone knows about Arizona it is predominantly Christian state and majority are Caucasian. I sometimes feel selfish when I ask Allah SWT to make it easy for me and my son to Move On with life. My son has difficulties with his behavior in school and it’s getting worse and worse but I will take him to see a neuropsychologist soon inshallah. I pray that one day my husband would become pious in this beautiful religion. I hope that one day he is a good Muslim so that he may be able to realize the damage that he caused in my life and my son’s life. I also pray that I will be able to actually find someone who really cares about me and my son but I know that in reality that will be the most difficult part because I am a Muslim now and I must find a Muslim husband. Also I am wearing my hijab. I have become aware of the stigma that some woman have that have children without a husband and it is sad because we would like companions too but is so stigmatize that we may never find companions. I know that allah bestow his mercy upon me that I may have a chance to get into Genna and meet a pious husband there but in the Duna I feel like I may not have that experience. My husband stole that from me he used me and my son to get a citizenship so that he can marry a Turkish woman and bring her to U.S. You can imagine where my self-esteem is right now and the only thing that keeps me going is the grace of Allah.
Sorry for the sentence structure and grammar I was using voice text
Jazakallar
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May allah give you strength.. if you need to talk ill send you my email sister
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Assalamualaikum malak,
It’s tough to be in such a situation. But at the same time , you have to start trusting . And Insha Allah make efforts . Allah does help . Not all men are alike.
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SubhanAllah, I’m so sorry to hear of your hardship sister. May Allah make it easy for us all.
Its very concerning, how single muslim mothers are seen in such awkward light by muslim community in large. There are always exceptions, however a single muslim mother of two, I feel like its so difficult to remarry because of many contributing factors, including men being less recipient to you because you are divorced and have children.
.
I think the muslim Ummah must do more to stop this stigma and offer more support for sisters to remarry. Single muslim mums need more Muslim Male role models in the lives of our children.
I have two boys and I crave for them to accompany a father to jummah, learn from a man they admire who loves Allah and his messenger more than his own life.
I’m so troubled by the lack of support, Its devastating at times.
Allah knows best
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Salam Sisters.
First time reading here. I probably already know the answer. And I should ask someone in a right position. But …
I really want to take my 3 daughters abroad for a holiday. 2 of them have never been and one has been once many years ago. But I have no Marham. My dad is dead. His dad is dead. I do not see my mum”s dad. My brother is 11 years old. I am not in contact with my uncles, all of whom are non Muslims anyway, and I wouldn’t want to go away with them. Can I go? I’d chose a predominantly Muslim country (does that exist anymore?!). It would be for 5 days.
It has been a horrible 2 years. I need the break as much as they deserve it.
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Walaikum salaam not sure this is the right place! You can’t travel without a mahram except in extreme situations like if you were a prisoner returning to your land. But, I am no scholar and it’s better you speak to one
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May Allah bless you with His mercy for starting such a noble cause.
May Allah strengthen and shower His love on all righteous single parents out there.
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Salamalaykum sisters…
This site sounds interesting and spiritually encouraging for single mums like us..
I am a widow with 2 girls and me and my gurls recently embraced islam..Alhamdulillah
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May Allah ease up your ways. Ameen!
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I am struggling this Ramadan. I started off well and then i lost all motivation. Praying night prayers are really difficult to manage with work and family commitments.
I feel guilty and terrible.
I can’t do everything even tho I want to.
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Salaam Sisters, it is very heartbreaking to read about muslim moms who has jannah under her feet struggling day to day with hardships.
My humble suggestion is if some sisters start single mom meet up group, where they can bring their children, make programs to tske them to park. Movies picnic etc. That way sisters and their children will get chance to make new friends share their ideas , support for each other. Important they and their children will not be lonely. Believe me i gave gone through this situation long time ago.
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taking the initiative and the courage to come up with sth out of struggle is not easy to have it done .i admire ur efforts in expressing urself and other women’s and encouraging them to not get afraid of what they are and stop blaming themselves for sth they are not responsible for and finally stop following the cattles thinking and make their voice heard for all those who try to stigmatize them.
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Assalamualaikum…
I am a single Muslim mom n really facing difficulties to take care of my 3 year girl, After I left my husband because of his bad habits n not taking responsibility of his family I came back to my brothers home n staying with him..people blame me for leaving my husband including my brother’s wife …but Allah knows I tried every way to make him responsible n leave his haram habits he wasn’t ready so I left him…now each day is like an exam for me because I’m a dependant…I need a job please provide me support…being a single mum in this duniya without a job is like being in hell
Please Allah show mercy on single Muslim mum, Ameen
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